One 75 years old lady came to see me. She had a right knee problem.
Never can I thank my father
I asked her, “How is the relationship with your father?”
She said, “Fine. We had a very cordial relationship”
“There is no thanks in your heart for him. Can you thank him? Think about all that he had done to you. Thank him for the same”.
She became silent and curtly went off. After about one week, she phoned up to me. “As I came with my son-in-law last time, I could not tell you anything in front of him. To tell the truth, I am not able to thank my father”.
A promise that resulted in suffering
“Only because of him I suffered all my life”.
Her father showed her a boy when she was to be married and told her that she had to marry him. She agreed to her father. On the date of marriage he came and asked her, “Give me a promise. Whatever happens in your life you would not divorce this boy”. She gave a promise to her father that she would not divorce him at any cost.
Her marriage was an abusive affair
From the date of marriage, her husband had been physically abusing her. It was a total harassment. She got two children through him and they are well placed now. Because she gave a promise to her father, she did not divorce her husband. All along she had been cursing her father for the same reasons.
She said, “I am a free bird now after my husband’s death. I can neither forgive my husband nor my father”.
Positives in the sufferings
I asked her, “In spite of all these bad events there must be at least one positive event in your life. Only for that purpose you have suffered in your life”.
She is a staunch devotee of Puttaparthi Sai Baba. When her marriage failed, she wanted a spiritual asylum. Therefore, she went to Baba. She composed and sang many songs on gods like Devi, and about Baba. She was also allotted a house there in Puttaparthi.
She had a great spiritual progress. Throughout the day, she was singing only Bhajans. Her life was totally changed to spirituality and she lived a life of an ascetic.
I asked her, “Is this not a positive point? I think only for this aspect your husband behaved like that. If the suffering was not there then you would have lived an ordinary life. We say, Atmavan Bhava, which means ‘I am not the doer’. Like that your husband is also not the doer. When we say we are not the doers, the opposite person is also not the doer”.
When she understood that Divine is the doer, automatically she started forgiving and she is free from her knee pain now.
Elbow means embrace. If you have a problem there, then you can’t give love to anyone.
Pain in Left Elbow
Keerthi Prasad developed a pain in the left elbow. In addition he was coughing for 15 years. Left side means receiving – love. Suppose you don’t receive love from somebody or if you give more space to a person then you will suffer in the left elbow.
Keerthi’s pain shows that he is not receiving his due love from his family. Who is the culprit – his family or him? In his case he is the one. For 15 years he never laughed. He will not look at his wife while talking to her. He will keep finding fault with the cleanliness of house. By constantly criticizing and showing his anger to his wife and children, he maintained a stoic distance from them. There was disharmony in the house. They hate him so much that they don’t want him to be in the house.
“If the house is in order probably I may not be alive”, his wife says. Sometimes the person living with you will say what the body is saying to you. I gave him Harmony pack – Beech for criticism, Willow for aversion and anger, and Walnut to change and adjust to his family (not the other way around).
He is a changed person now. His two children are very happy because they see him smile. Pain is almost reduced now and it’s bearable.
Cough represents anger. It’s more with him. Wet cough – recent anger and dry cough – anger is chronic.
Pain in Right Elbow
Venki, a thirteen years old kid, whenever he takes a pen to write something, he gets pain in his right arm – his writing hand. If there is pain in the right hand – “take care of me” is the message. With the pain in his right hand, he is telling his parents to take care of him. What’s the problem here? He is terribly angry with his parents.
While he was talking with Naran, he was holding his left elbow. Elbows are used to embrace others. Right hand holding the left elbow – left elbow means he wants some love and appreciation and he desires for it.
Venki is studying in 8th standard. Not even once any of his parents attended his school. He comes first in athletics and a class topper in Tamil, his mother tongue. He is average in other subjects. No appreciation from his parents. His parents told him, if he gets 1st in other subjects, like Math and science then they will come to school.
His body is saying that his parents have not shown any love and appreciation. “Hey! Parents take care of me! I need to be loved”. Why he gets a pain in the right hand then. Observe where his hand is going. It touches the left elbow. Observe the gestures as well as the pain. They have more value than just mere words.
He was prescribed Chicory (longing for love) and Willow (for his anger against parents). His parents were advised to give the emotional security that the child needs.