My husband is 61 yrs old. We live and work at Muscat at this time. He has been diagnosed diabetic in 1986 (when he was 35 yrs).
He has been just increasing the dosage of his allopathic medicines to control his diabetes. It no longer works and doctor has asked him to go for injections, which he refuses to.
He has been having severe pain in the left knee since mid-April.
The allopath doctor gave an injection in the bone and said it is beginning of paralysis. He also said not to massage with any oils or balms. Only to keep ice packs.
He cannot lie down horizontal and sleep or turn sides. The pain is bearable if he is moving about, but unbearable when he comes home and relaxes. I cannot bear to see him suffering so much. Please suggest a mantra for healing this problem urgently.
We cannot leave this job and go away to India (Mumbai). We have a daughter who will be getting married in Dec 2013. Until then, we have to be here and working.
Left knee indicates that he has done something unfair to his mother.
Let him analyze his relationship, his thoughts and opinions about her.
Ask him to do the forgiving exercise daily 200 times.
Download a picture Kausalya (Sri Rama’s mother) and keep it under his pillow.
Ask him to thank all the places, where he stayed and lived in his sixty years of life.
Chant “OAK, CHERRY PLUM, WALNUT” 100 times over a cup of water and give him that water daily.
You chant “CHICORY, RED CHESTNUT, CHERRY PLUM”.
There need not be any concern for diabetes.
One 75 years old lady came to see me. She had a right knee problem.
Never can I thank my father
I asked her, “How is the relationship with your father?”
She said, “Fine. We had a very cordial relationship”
“There is no thanks in your heart for him. Can you thank him? Think about all that he had done to you. Thank him for the same”.
She became silent and curtly went off. After about one week, she phoned up to me. “As I came with my son-in-law last time, I could not tell you anything in front of him. To tell the truth, I am not able to thank my father”.
A promise that resulted in suffering
“Only because of him I suffered all my life”.
Her father showed her a boy when she was to be married and told her that she had to marry him. She agreed to her father. On the date of marriage he came and asked her, “Give me a promise. Whatever happens in your life you would not divorce this boy”. She gave a promise to her father that she would not divorce him at any cost.
Her marriage was an abusive affair
From the date of marriage, her husband had been physically abusing her. It was a total harassment. She got two children through him and they are well placed now. Because she gave a promise to her father, she did not divorce her husband. All along she had been cursing her father for the same reasons.
She said, “I am a free bird now after my husband’s death. I can neither forgive my husband nor my father”.
Positives in the sufferings
I asked her, “In spite of all these bad events there must be at least one positive event in your life. Only for that purpose you have suffered in your life”.
She is a staunch devotee of Puttaparthi Sai Baba. When her marriage failed, she wanted a spiritual asylum. Therefore, she went to Baba. She composed and sang many songs on gods like Devi, and about Baba. She was also allotted a house there in Puttaparthi.
She had a great spiritual progress. Throughout the day, she was singing only Bhajans. Her life was totally changed to spirituality and she lived a life of an ascetic.
I asked her, “Is this not a positive point? I think only for this aspect your husband behaved like that. If the suffering was not there then you would have lived an ordinary life. We say, Atmavan Bhava, which means ‘I am not the doer’. Like that your husband is also not the doer. When we say we are not the doers, the opposite person is also not the doer”.
When she understood that Divine is the doer, automatically she started forgiving and she is free from her knee pain now.
A girl after she got married and moved to her husband’s house, very often she phoned up her mother asking for suggestions concerning how to handle her in-laws. In no way she could mingle with her in-laws. In addition, she will complain about them to her parents. She compared her husband’s actions with her father’s and pointed out the differences between them.
She developed a lower back pain. Lower back means place of support. There is no pain while sitting or lying. There is pain only while walking. The body says “you are secured here. By your behaviour don’t spoil your place in your new family. Adjust yourself to fit in here. This is your place of security.”
Soon after her marriage, the girl developed a feeling of being forsaken as she was away from her parents. She felt insecure and lonely without her father around. A sense of incapacity had set inside her. She was resisting changing and adjusting to the new environment and thus a new phase of her life.
One dose of Bach Flower Remedy Walnut and Chicory cured her pain. Within one month, she acclimatized to the new environment.
Change is the order of life. Accept it.
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Vidya is married for 25 yrs. Now she has a herniated disk and back pain as well.
On their first night, Vidya told her husband that she is not interested in physical intimacy. However, they can get intimate only to give birth to a child. Later on, they have to abstain from it.
The husband would have wished if she had told him earlier, he would not have married her at all.
However, God has a reason behind every action. It is God’s Will.
She Imposed Her Will on Her Husband
They had a son and their physical relationship ended as she decided.
She had imposed her will on her husband! In addition, she was separated from him emotionally.
Now after 25 years, around the age of 55, she has the pain.
For the past five years, she has consulted many doctors, but to no relief from the pain. She had undergone different kinds of treatments and had gone through various types of scans too.
Let Us Analyze Her Case
Hernia means separation.
Back disks are separated as she has separated (alienated) herself from her husband.
Body is telling her now that what she had done twenty-five years ago back is not correct.
It would have warned her even at that young age in the form of pain. She would have taken then some painkillers. As she was young, she would have overcome the pain comfortably.
Unfortunately, at this age, she cannot rectify the mistake.
Therefore, I asked her to do the forgiving exercise.
The Forgiving Exercise given:
- She was to write her husband’s name and her name on a piece of paper, and kept it on her left palm.
- Then close it with her right palm and affirmed, “I am sorry. Please forgive me. Love, Thanks, and Divine!”
- Then she had to visualise sending them both to God’s source, to be healed by its light and love.
- Then she was to bring them back from God’s source and affirm, “Love! Thanks! Divine!”
- In addition, she had to do the affirmation, “Let this not happen in my next life. Let me then unite with my husband mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually”.
Her Progress Was Miraculous
When I suggested the above, I did not have much hope. However, after one month, she was almost all right.
She learnt yoga. Initially she had difficulties. However, after a few days of Yoga and Pranayama, she gradually gained some improvement.
Now her movements are not restricted. Her pain is bearable as well. She is able to walk joyfully. However, she feels a little bit of pain now and then.
Once you realize your mistake and ready to rectify it, then the body adjusts and rectifies the pain with the thinking let this person be pardoned 🙂
Please note the above material is from the monthly meeting held on Jan and Feb 2009 on Mind and Body Intelligence.