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Never Divorce Your Husband

One 75 years old lady came to see me. She had a right knee problem.

Never can I thank my father

I asked her, “How is the relationship with your father?”

She said, “Fine. We had a very cordial relationship”

“There is no thanks in your heart for him. Can you thank him? Think about all that he had done to you. Thank him for the same”.

She became silent and curtly went off. After about one week, she phoned up to me. “As I came with my son-in-law last time, I could not tell you anything in front of him. To tell the truth, I am not able to thank my father”.

A promise that resulted in suffering

“Why”.

 “Only because of him I suffered all my life”.

Her father showed her a boy when she was to be married and told her that she had to marry him. She agreed to her father. On the date of marriage he came and asked her, “Give me a promise. Whatever happens in your life you would not divorce this boy”.  She gave a promise to her father that she would not divorce him at any cost.

Her marriage was an abusive affair

From the date of marriage, her husband had been physically abusing her. It was a total harassment. She got two children through him and they are well placed now. Because she gave a promise to her father, she did not divorce her husband. All along she had been cursing her father for the same reasons.

She said, “I am a free bird now after my husband’s death. I can neither forgive my husband nor my father”.

Positives in the sufferings

I asked her, “In spite of all these bad events there must be at least one positive event in your life. Only for that purpose you have suffered in your life”.

She is a staunch devotee of Puttaparthi Sai Baba. When her marriage failed, she wanted a spiritual asylum. Therefore, she went to Baba. She composed and sang many songs on gods like Devi, and about Baba. She was also allotted a house there in Puttaparthi.

She had a great spiritual progress. Throughout the day, she was singing only Bhajans. Her life was totally changed to spirituality and she lived a life of an ascetic.

I asked her, “Is this not a positive point? I think only for this aspect your husband behaved like that. If the suffering was not there then you would have lived an ordinary life. We say, Atmavan Bhava, which means ‘I am not the doer’. Like that your husband is also not the doer. When we say we are not the doers, the opposite person is also not the doer”.

When she understood that Divine is the doer, automatically she started forgiving and she is free from her knee pain now.

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(Divine) Will from Her Father

Conflict among the siblings over their parent’s property

There was a conflict among some siblings over their parental property. One of the sisters is very poor and she developed a knee problem. Here, the message from her body is that she should not be possessive and had to give up. Interestingly, while the sister who was very badly in need of money had the knee problem, none of her siblings have got any knee problems.

As per the will, she is getting lesser share than others. Others were getting some cash too, while she was not getting any.

She totally believed me and whatever I tell her, she was ready to follow.

I told her to accept whatever was given to her. I asked her to chant, ‘I am ready to submit myself to the Divine Will’. When she started to chant, the pain went off.

Now came the interesting climax

The area allotted for all of them was to be either in ground floor or third floor. They decided to go for the draw and in that she was allotted the third floor area.

Again, she approached me. She wept over her situation and I gave her the Bach Flower Rescue Remedy (to calm her down).

In the flat opposite to hers, which was for sale, was bought by a family. There was a boy in that family who was in marriageable age. The whole family liked this lady as well as her daughter very much. The family wanted the daughter to get married to their son. In addition, there was no demand (dowry) from the boy’s side. They also took care of the marriage expenses. Thus, there were no expenses whatsoever for the girl’s side.

The couple now very happily settled.

Body puts us in the path created for us by divinity

So we do not know what is there in store for us by the Divine. By god’s grace she accepted whatever I told her and accepted the property given to her.

The body is nothing but the Divine. We have to accept the message it is giving and act accordingly. At each and every step it guides us.

However, we fail to understand the message. We do not how to infer the messages from the body and we never take care of the body either.

‘Hand’ful of messages from our body

Right shoulder pain

All long he was lazy. He has to fulfill the duties in full. He will avoid interviews if there is any problem attending the interview. He will give an excuse, “I have to attend my friend’s marriage”. Which is priority number one in your life? It is responsibility. So you need to be responsible is the message from this pain.

Left hand fingers, especially middle

Stop criticizing, condemning, blaming others; have Intolerance. For some, they will get pain in the right hand fingers.

Left hand

Body is giving and receiving through hands. When you get pain in them, don’t think in terms of right or wrong. Think it as a message from your body.

If you are angry, when you need love, nobody will love you. Left hand side pain indicates you will not receive love.

Right hand

Right hand side pain indicates:

  • That what you have is more and therefore, give more.
  • If you have pain on top of the hand, then take the Bach Flower remedy CENTAURY.
  • Give now is the message from right hand. Otherwise, when you are ready to give to a person, then they may not be available to receive it from you.
  • Have an attitude of gratitude as it is missing from you.
  • Understand and grasp the subject on hand. The person who works more knows less. They will have pain in the right hand.

Right ankle

You have taken a decision. Now, reverse the decision is the message from the body.

I follow my father’s footsteps

Knee is the guiding self – it’s the parents’ self. Only parents’ related issue will come in the knees. I might be repeating what my father had done or I might be lacking a resource that my father had. Your body reminds that to you through a pain in the knee.

Case History 1: Just 1% mismatch between Son and Father

Right knee refers to one’s relationship with father, while the left knee points to mother. 

A person had problem with his right knee. I asked him whether he had any issues with his father. He replied that “by all means everything is ok with my father. He is a role model for me. I follow him by the book.”

I asked him to tell me where he doesn’t follow his father. You might have followed him 99%. But one percent you may not have followed him. Find that out and follow that practice. Your father wants you to follow that too.

He replied there is one difference between them. While his father was close to his mother, he is not close to his wife.  I told him to take care of his wife and love her as his father did to his mother. Whatever be the circumstances, daily affirm within, “I totally accept and love my wife as she is” and implement it in practice. This is your father’s message through the right knee pain.

Please note here that not all sons who had thrown out his parents may get a pain in the right knee, while somebody might get it. It depends on their karma. Only when the pain comes, the issue should be addressed.

Case History 2: Postponement of Marriage

Girija’s father is no more. For one year I couldn’t figure out a solution. She took some remedies. She did an operation too. But nothing relieved her pain.

She loves a person and the latter loves her so much, that he wanted to marry her. But, she was postponing it. I asked her when her father did marry. He got married when he was 38 years old. But he died at the age of 40.

What’s the message here: get married earlier. You are already 31. You don’t want to end up like your father. Otherwise you may loose your husband or he might die earlier. Don’t repeat your father’s life.

Body guides us so beautifully!

My body approved my love affair

A girl of 21 years old approached me for pain in her left shoulder which has become immobile. This girl loved a person from a different caste. She was forced to stay in the house as their affair was not approved by her father.

I asked her to tell her background and narrate on what happened before she had the pain.  She broke down and said she is in love with a person and that person is good.

I told her, “Forget about your parents. Let us get an answer from the body. Even if the pain goes by 10%, then the body is confirming it”.

She affirmed, ‘I am not worried about others as I believe that god is guiding me. God is guiding me to marry the person of my choice.’

As she said the affirmation few times, her pain went down quite a bit. This means her body is favoring the marriage. It says don’t worry about caste. Don’t worry about the approval of your marriage. God (through your body) is guiding you to marry him.  God is approving this marriage, why we need others’ approval. It is not necessary.

I asked her to honor the body by marrying her lover. She is happily married to that person now.

Left Shoulder Back Pain Indicates…

  • When you are not appreciated or not recognized.
  • When you are put to shame
  • When your actions are considered bad, regarded as incorrect, or not approved by others.

You will get pain initially. Then numbness will develop as more and more you go through those feelings.

I Got a Back Pain Soon After My Marriage

A girl after she got married and moved to her husband’s house, very often she phoned up her mother asking for suggestions concerning how to handle her in-laws. In no way she could mingle with her in-laws.  In addition, she will complain about them to her parents. She compared her husband’s actions with her father’s and pointed out the differences between them.

She developed a lower back pain. Lower back means place of support. There is no pain while sitting or lying. There is pain only while walking. The body says “you are secured here. By your behaviour don’t spoil your place in your new family. Adjust yourself to fit in here. This is your place of security.”

Soon after her marriage, the girl developed a feeling of being forsaken as she was away from her parents.  She felt insecure and lonely without her father around. A sense of incapacity had set inside her. She was resisting changing and adjusting to the new environment and thus a new phase of her life.

One dose of Bach Flower Remedy Walnut and Chicory cured her pain. Within one month, she acclimatized to the new environment.

Change is the order of life. Accept it.

Please check to know more about Mind-Body intelligence:

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Separated Relationship

Naran

Vidya is married for 25 yrs. Now she has a herniated disk and back pain as well.

On their first night, Vidya told her husband that she is not interested in physical intimacy. However, they can get intimate only to give birth to a child. Later on, they have to abstain from it.

The husband would have wished if she had told him earlier, he would not have married her at all.

However, God has a reason behind every action. It is God’s Will.

She Imposed Her Will on Her Husband

They had a son and their physical relationship ended as she decided.

She had imposed her will on her husband! In addition, she was separated from him emotionally.

Now after 25 years, around the age of 55, she has the pain.

For the past five years, she has consulted many doctors, but to no relief from the pain. She had undergone different kinds of treatments and had gone through various types of scans too.

Let Us Analyze Her Case

Hernia means separation.

Back disks are separated as she has separated (alienated) herself from her husband.

Body is telling her now that what she had done twenty-five years ago back is not correct.

It would have warned her even at that young age in the form of pain. She would have taken then some painkillers. As she was young, she would have overcome the pain comfortably.

Unfortunately, at this age, she cannot rectify the mistake.

Therefore, I asked her to do the forgiving exercise.

The Forgiving Exercise given:

  • She was to write her husband’s name and her name on a piece of paper, and kept it on her left palm.
  • Then close it with her right palm and affirmed, “I am sorry. Please forgive me. Love, Thanks, and Divine!”
  • Then she had to visualise sending them both to God’s source, to be healed by its light and love.
  • Then she was to bring them back from God’s source and affirm, “Love! Thanks! Divine!”
  • In addition, she had to do the affirmation, “Let this not happen in my next life. Let me then unite with my husband mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually”.

Her Progress Was Miraculous

When I suggested the above, I did not have much hope. However, after one month, she was almost all right.

She learnt yoga. Initially she had difficulties. However, after a few days of Yoga and Pranayama, she gradually gained some improvement.

Now her movements are not restricted. Her pain is bearable as well.  She is able to walk joyfully. However, she feels a little bit of pain now and then.

Explanation

Once you realize your mistake and ready to rectify it, then the body adjusts and rectifies the pain with the thinking let this person be pardoned 🙂

Please note the above material is from the monthly meeting held on Jan and Feb 2009 on Mind and Body Intelligence.

Reversing The Decision To Marry

Pain in the Right Ankle – “reverse the decision”, is the message from the body.

If you get the pain when the job was offered, then don’t accept the job.

Vinay’s marriage got fixed. His would-be is based at US. 

The marriage was fixed after six months.

Soon after, he met with a small accident. His right ankle got bruised.

Heard a Rumour

Three months later, he received an anonymous letter stating that the girl has an affair.

His family didn’t believe it.

Vinay’s pain in the right ankle didn’t go.

He consulted me.

I asked him, “Are you communicating with the girl?” He replied that he did not even receive an email from her to-date.

I told him in person that the marriage will not take place and asked him to  reverse the decision of marrying that person. That’s what his body is informing Vinay through the bruise in the right ankle.

He started contemplating it but his parents were adamant to go ahead with the marriage.

Honour Your Body

I asked him to affirm, “Divinity takes care of my future. I honor the decision of my body. I decide not to marry this girl’.

His pain reduced by 25%.

He said “NO”  for the marriage, but his parents were upset and didn’t agree to that.

I asked him to stick to that point, for nothing untoward will happen, and to wait and watch.

Wedding Arrangement In-progress

Wedding invitations were printed and were ready for distribution. 

Around that time, the girl’s parents approached Vinay’s parents and told them that their daughter has been absconding for the last 4 months.

I told Vinay, “You have honored your body’s message and its advice. Now say thanks to the body by taking an oil bath. Please take a massage too – as it’s one way of accepting the body and loving the body for having guided you in the right direction.”

Please note the above material is from the monthly meeting held on Jan and Feb 2009 on Mind and Body Intelligence:

http://tinyurl.com/MindBodyJanFeb2009

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