One 75 years old lady came to see me. She had a right knee problem.
Never can I thank my father
I asked her, “How is the relationship with your father?”
She said, “Fine. We had a very cordial relationship”
“There is no thanks in your heart for him. Can you thank him? Think about all that he had done to you. Thank him for the same”.
She became silent and curtly went off. After about one week, she phoned up to me. “As I came with my son-in-law last time, I could not tell you anything in front of him. To tell the truth, I am not able to thank my father”.
A promise that resulted in suffering
“Only because of him I suffered all my life”.
Her father showed her a boy when she was to be married and told her that she had to marry him. She agreed to her father. On the date of marriage he came and asked her, “Give me a promise. Whatever happens in your life you would not divorce this boy”. She gave a promise to her father that she would not divorce him at any cost.
Her marriage was an abusive affair
From the date of marriage, her husband had been physically abusing her. It was a total harassment. She got two children through him and they are well placed now. Because she gave a promise to her father, she did not divorce her husband. All along she had been cursing her father for the same reasons.
She said, “I am a free bird now after my husband’s death. I can neither forgive my husband nor my father”.
Positives in the sufferings
I asked her, “In spite of all these bad events there must be at least one positive event in your life. Only for that purpose you have suffered in your life”.
She is a staunch devotee of Puttaparthi Sai Baba. When her marriage failed, she wanted a spiritual asylum. Therefore, she went to Baba. She composed and sang many songs on gods like Devi, and about Baba. She was also allotted a house there in Puttaparthi.
She had a great spiritual progress. Throughout the day, she was singing only Bhajans. Her life was totally changed to spirituality and she lived a life of an ascetic.
I asked her, “Is this not a positive point? I think only for this aspect your husband behaved like that. If the suffering was not there then you would have lived an ordinary life. We say, Atmavan Bhava, which means ‘I am not the doer’. Like that your husband is also not the doer. When we say we are not the doers, the opposite person is also not the doer”.
When she understood that Divine is the doer, automatically she started forgiving and she is free from her knee pain now.
A girl of 21 years old approached me for pain in her left shoulder which has become immobile. This girl loved a person from a different caste. She was forced to stay in the house as their affair was not approved by her father.
I asked her to tell her background and narrate on what happened before she had the pain. She broke down and said she is in love with a person and that person is good.
I told her, “Forget about your parents. Let us get an answer from the body. Even if the pain goes by 10%, then the body is confirming it”.
She affirmed, ‘I am not worried about others as I believe that god is guiding me. God is guiding me to marry the person of my choice.’
As she said the affirmation few times, her pain went down quite a bit. This means her body is favoring the marriage. It says don’t worry about caste. Don’t worry about the approval of your marriage. God (through your body) is guiding you to marry him. God is approving this marriage, why we need others’ approval. It is not necessary.
I asked her to honor the body by marrying her lover. She is happily married to that person now.
Left Shoulder Back Pain Indicates…
- When you are not appreciated or not recognized.
- When you are put to shame
- When your actions are considered bad, regarded as incorrect, or not approved by others.
You will get pain initially. Then numbness will develop as more and more you go through those feelings.
A girl after she got married and moved to her husband’s house, very often she phoned up her mother asking for suggestions concerning how to handle her in-laws. In no way she could mingle with her in-laws. In addition, she will complain about them to her parents. She compared her husband’s actions with her father’s and pointed out the differences between them.
She developed a lower back pain. Lower back means place of support. There is no pain while sitting or lying. There is pain only while walking. The body says “you are secured here. By your behaviour don’t spoil your place in your new family. Adjust yourself to fit in here. This is your place of security.”
Soon after her marriage, the girl developed a feeling of being forsaken as she was away from her parents. She felt insecure and lonely without her father around. A sense of incapacity had set inside her. She was resisting changing and adjusting to the new environment and thus a new phase of her life.
One dose of Bach Flower Remedy Walnut and Chicory cured her pain. Within one month, she acclimatized to the new environment.
Change is the order of life. Accept it.
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Vidya is married for 25 yrs. Now she has a herniated disk and back pain as well.
On their first night, Vidya told her husband that she is not interested in physical intimacy. However, they can get intimate only to give birth to a child. Later on, they have to abstain from it.
The husband would have wished if she had told him earlier, he would not have married her at all.
However, God has a reason behind every action. It is God’s Will.
She Imposed Her Will on Her Husband
They had a son and their physical relationship ended as she decided.
She had imposed her will on her husband! In addition, she was separated from him emotionally.
Now after 25 years, around the age of 55, she has the pain.
For the past five years, she has consulted many doctors, but to no relief from the pain. She had undergone different kinds of treatments and had gone through various types of scans too.
Let Us Analyze Her Case
Hernia means separation.
Back disks are separated as she has separated (alienated) herself from her husband.
Body is telling her now that what she had done twenty-five years ago back is not correct.
It would have warned her even at that young age in the form of pain. She would have taken then some painkillers. As she was young, she would have overcome the pain comfortably.
Unfortunately, at this age, she cannot rectify the mistake.
Therefore, I asked her to do the forgiving exercise.
The Forgiving Exercise given:
- She was to write her husband’s name and her name on a piece of paper, and kept it on her left palm.
- Then close it with her right palm and affirmed, “I am sorry. Please forgive me. Love, Thanks, and Divine!”
- Then she had to visualise sending them both to God’s source, to be healed by its light and love.
- Then she was to bring them back from God’s source and affirm, “Love! Thanks! Divine!”
- In addition, she had to do the affirmation, “Let this not happen in my next life. Let me then unite with my husband mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually”.
Her Progress Was Miraculous
When I suggested the above, I did not have much hope. However, after one month, she was almost all right.
She learnt yoga. Initially she had difficulties. However, after a few days of Yoga and Pranayama, she gradually gained some improvement.
Now her movements are not restricted. Her pain is bearable as well. She is able to walk joyfully. However, she feels a little bit of pain now and then.
Once you realize your mistake and ready to rectify it, then the body adjusts and rectifies the pain with the thinking let this person be pardoned 🙂
Please note the above material is from the monthly meeting held on Jan and Feb 2009 on Mind and Body Intelligence.
Pain in the Right Ankle – “reverse the decision”, is the message from the body.
If you get the pain when the job was offered, then don’t accept the job.
Vinay’s marriage got fixed. His would-be is based at US.
The marriage was fixed after six months.
Soon after, he met with a small accident. His right ankle got bruised.
Heard a Rumour
Three months later, he received an anonymous letter stating that the girl has an affair.
His family didn’t believe it.
Vinay’s pain in the right ankle didn’t go.
He consulted me.
I asked him, “Are you communicating with the girl?” He replied that he did not even receive an email from her to-date.
I told him in person that the marriage will not take place and asked him to reverse the decision of marrying that person. That’s what his body is informing Vinay through the bruise in the right ankle.
He started contemplating it but his parents were adamant to go ahead with the marriage.
Honour Your Body
I asked him to affirm, “Divinity takes care of my future. I honor the decision of my body. I decide not to marry this girl’.
His pain reduced by 25%.
He said “NO” for the marriage, but his parents were upset and didn’t agree to that.
I asked him to stick to that point, for nothing untoward will happen, and to wait and watch.
Wedding Arrangement In-progress
Wedding invitations were printed and were ready for distribution.
Around that time, the girl’s parents approached Vinay’s parents and told them that their daughter has been absconding for the last 4 months.
I told Vinay, “You have honored your body’s message and its advice. Now say thanks to the body by taking an oil bath. Please take a massage too – as it’s one way of accepting the body and loving the body for having guided you in the right direction.”
Please note the above material is from the monthly meeting held on Jan and Feb 2009 on Mind and Body Intelligence: