Sometimes it can happen in the family that one can’t be in the position to support a person due to family circumstances.
A person aged 48 approached me for his lower back pain. The pain is more on the right side. After finding that there is no financial insecurity, no loan to repay and no job insecurity, I asked him a simple question whether he is not giving the required support to any elders in the family? It may be due to the circumstances. If you say “yes”, then keep in mind that the body wants you to give the needed care and protection to that person. If you take steps for that, your body will relieve you from the pain. To find the veracity of this, you can chant, “I willingly lend support to so and so”. If the pain starts reducing, then this is the mental cause, and you have to follow what you said. The message of the body is “do not create instability in others”.
Then he came out with the story. His father (widower) was taken care of by him and his three brothers, taking turns every three months. One son went on a business tour for a month and wants his brothers to take care of his father during that time. My patient was willing, but he could not take care of his father, because his spouse vehemently opposed it. Therefore, he said no to it, due to his lack of assertiveness and out of fear to go against his wife’s words. From the next day onwards, he developed back pain.
You may ask why his wife did not get back pain. That is not the matter here. If you get the pain, there is a message for you. Find the message and rectify your life.
Elbow means embrace. If you have a problem there, then you can’t give love to anyone.
Pain in Left Elbow
Keerthi Prasad developed a pain in the left elbow. In addition he was coughing for 15 years. Left side means receiving – love. Suppose you don’t receive love from somebody or if you give more space to a person then you will suffer in the left elbow.
Keerthi’s pain shows that he is not receiving his due love from his family. Who is the culprit – his family or him? In his case he is the one. For 15 years he never laughed. He will not look at his wife while talking to her. He will keep finding fault with the cleanliness of house. By constantly criticizing and showing his anger to his wife and children, he maintained a stoic distance from them. There was disharmony in the house. They hate him so much that they don’t want him to be in the house.
“If the house is in order probably I may not be alive”, his wife says. Sometimes the person living with you will say what the body is saying to you. I gave him Harmony pack – Beech for criticism, Willow for aversion and anger, and Walnut to change and adjust to his family (not the other way around).
He is a changed person now. His two children are very happy because they see him smile. Pain is almost reduced now and it’s bearable.
Cough represents anger. It’s more with him. Wet cough – recent anger and dry cough – anger is chronic.
Pain in Right Elbow
Venki, a thirteen years old kid, whenever he takes a pen to write something, he gets pain in his right arm – his writing hand. If there is pain in the right hand – “take care of me” is the message. With the pain in his right hand, he is telling his parents to take care of him. What’s the problem here? He is terribly angry with his parents.
While he was talking with Naran, he was holding his left elbow. Elbows are used to embrace others. Right hand holding the left elbow – left elbow means he wants some love and appreciation and he desires for it.
Venki is studying in 8th standard. Not even once any of his parents attended his school. He comes first in athletics and a class topper in Tamil, his mother tongue. He is average in other subjects. No appreciation from his parents. His parents told him, if he gets 1st in other subjects, like Math and science then they will come to school.
His body is saying that his parents have not shown any love and appreciation. “Hey! Parents take care of me! I need to be loved”. Why he gets a pain in the right hand then. Observe where his hand is going. It touches the left elbow. Observe the gestures as well as the pain. They have more value than just mere words.
He was prescribed Chicory (longing for love) and Willow (for his anger against parents). His parents were advised to give the emotional security that the child needs.
Any issues in thighs points to transition in our lives.
A patient had pain from thigh to knee on the left side of his body for nearly three months. Neuron medicines had no effect on the pain. I asked him whether he is planning to change to different business, from the traditional profession he is doing currently – selling stationery.
He said, “Yes. I am also confused about my decision. My wife says that with the earnings from our traditional business alone, my father could perform the marriage of his three daughters. Why should I leave that? Though I want to do a different business, my wife’s words put a brake to my action”.
I told him that his body also says so, “Why do you want to change to a new profession? Keep your hand on the left knee and affirm that I will continue to do my father’s business”. He did. And to his surprise his pain went off while he was affirming!
A girl of 21 years old approached me for pain in her left shoulder which has become immobile. This girl loved a person from a different caste. She was forced to stay in the house as their affair was not approved by her father.
I asked her to tell her background and narrate on what happened before she had the pain. She broke down and said she is in love with a person and that person is good.
I told her, “Forget about your parents. Let us get an answer from the body. Even if the pain goes by 10%, then the body is confirming it”.
She affirmed, ‘I am not worried about others as I believe that god is guiding me. God is guiding me to marry the person of my choice.’
As she said the affirmation few times, her pain went down quite a bit. This means her body is favoring the marriage. It says don’t worry about caste. Don’t worry about the approval of your marriage. God (through your body) is guiding you to marry him. God is approving this marriage, why we need others’ approval. It is not necessary.
I asked her to honor the body by marrying her lover. She is happily married to that person now.
Left Shoulder Back Pain Indicates…
- When you are not appreciated or not recognized.
- When you are put to shame
- When your actions are considered bad, regarded as incorrect, or not approved by others.
You will get pain initially. Then numbness will develop as more and more you go through those feelings.
Ram is working in a software company.
He developed a left shoulder back pain. I asked him whether he has any problem in the office. He replied that he has no role in the office and therefore, he is not working to his satisfaction.
The Message from his body is, “Because of your lack of interest, your contribution is less in the office. You are giving less than you are receiving. If you continue to do so, in the future you will get lesser appreciation. There may be a cut in the salary too. Even if you find a new job you will be paid less there. If you don’t want these things to happen then give 100% of your efforts”. Otherwise your receiving will become lesser and lesser.
I asked him to affirm ‘I choose to find ways to give 100%. I stop resisting the present job. I accept it totally’.
The moment he committed, the body pain was reduced. Please note that there is no right or wrong here!
Back Pain Indicates…
- Feeling insecure
- You get back pain when somebody becomes your boss with out proper notice to you.
- You might have been overtaken
- Somebody is there always giving you direction in house or in office
- Child less couple thinks, “What will I do in my old age? There is no son or daughter to take care of us”. This worry has created a back pain in a lady. I coined three affirmations for this lady. It helped her a lot. The affirmations are: “I release my Past”, “I am at Peace” and “Divinity takes care of My Future”.
Lower Back Pain – Causes
Somebody had a lower back pain. Lower back means support. To get it we have to be united with the people, for example our family members. Some things are imposed on us. Because we don’t like it, doesn’t mean that we can come out of it.
Rahini’s Lower Back Pain – a Case History
Rahini was attending the workshop on Mind-Body Intelligence.
Her narration during the workshop, “I was suffering from acute pain. This pain started from yesterday morning, when I just arrived from Delhi. The pain is still there. Naran S. Balakumar asked me to affirmations for back pain. I had been doing it for last two hours since the beginning of this lecture. Now the pain is gone totally.”
Naran S Balakumar
This lady is also childless and is feeling insecure.
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A girl after she got married and moved to her husband’s house, very often she phoned up her mother asking for suggestions concerning how to handle her in-laws. In no way she could mingle with her in-laws. In addition, she will complain about them to her parents. She compared her husband’s actions with her father’s and pointed out the differences between them.
She developed a lower back pain. Lower back means place of support. There is no pain while sitting or lying. There is pain only while walking. The body says “you are secured here. By your behaviour don’t spoil your place in your new family. Adjust yourself to fit in here. This is your place of security.”
Soon after her marriage, the girl developed a feeling of being forsaken as she was away from her parents. She felt insecure and lonely without her father around. A sense of incapacity had set inside her. She was resisting changing and adjusting to the new environment and thus a new phase of her life.
One dose of Bach Flower Remedy Walnut and Chicory cured her pain. Within one month, she acclimatized to the new environment.
Change is the order of life. Accept it.
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