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Never Divorce Your Husband
One 75 years old lady came to see me. She had a right knee problem.
Never can I thank my father
I asked her, “How is the relationship with your father?”
She said, “Fine. We had a very cordial relationship”
“There is no thanks in your heart for him. Can you thank him? Think about all that he had done to you. Thank him for the same”.
She became silent and curtly went off. After about one week, she phoned up to me. “As I came with my son-in-law last time, I could not tell you anything in front of him. To tell the truth, I am not able to thank my father”.
A promise that resulted in suffering
“Why”.
“Only because of him I suffered all my life”.
Her father showed her a boy when she was to be married and told her that she had to marry him. She agreed to her father. On the date of marriage he came and asked her, “Give me a promise. Whatever happens in your life you would not divorce this boy”. She gave a promise to her father that she would not divorce him at any cost.
Her marriage was an abusive affair
From the date of marriage, her husband had been physically abusing her. It was a total harassment. She got two children through him and they are well placed now. Because she gave a promise to her father, she did not divorce her husband. All along she had been cursing her father for the same reasons.
She said, “I am a free bird now after my husband’s death. I can neither forgive my husband nor my father”.
Positives in the sufferings
I asked her, “In spite of all these bad events there must be at least one positive event in your life. Only for that purpose you have suffered in your life”.
She is a staunch devotee of Puttaparthi Sai Baba. When her marriage failed, she wanted a spiritual asylum. Therefore, she went to Baba. She composed and sang many songs on gods like Devi, and about Baba. She was also allotted a house there in Puttaparthi.
She had a great spiritual progress. Throughout the day, she was singing only Bhajans. Her life was totally changed to spirituality and she lived a life of an ascetic.
I asked her, “Is this not a positive point? I think only for this aspect your husband behaved like that. If the suffering was not there then you would have lived an ordinary life. We say, Atmavan Bhava, which means ‘I am not the doer’. Like that your husband is also not the doer. When we say we are not the doers, the opposite person is also not the doer”.
When she understood that Divine is the doer, automatically she started forgiving and she is free from her knee pain now.
Healing swelling without medication
This case history is a narration by Nirmal, who works as a software engineer. She narrates how mind-body relationship helped her to heal the swelling that appeared on her left hand without any medication.
This has happened to me last month (Jan 09). I am working in a software company, and was waiting for my US opportunity in my project. One fine morning, we received a mail stating that someone from Chennai had been shortlisted for the US assignment on a long-term basis. I got disappointed as I was not referred for that position. I wrote a mail to my manager, asking for the reason, for the job exactly fits my profile.
This was running inside mind, when I went to my native place for the festival season. Suddenly I received a call from Shobana, my yoga teacher. She informed that there is a monthly meeting organized next week, and wanted to know whether we – my self and my hubby, are available.
I broke down and explained to her all that happened and as usual she consoled me with her magnetic voice and positive words. She told me that some other thing might be waiting for me here in India to complete, which might bring more visibility than the US role.
Also, she was advising me to accept the fact and release the thought rather than fuming inside my heart. She asked me to chant the Switch Words – ‘Love Thanks Divine’ as many times as possible to come out of the hurt.
Three days later, I went to my office. Still the incident was running in my mind. It was not so much fuming inside me, as I had on the first day. And later on during the day, I received an explanation that there was a mistake in the email and the role was not yet finalized in US.
Meanwhile, right after the lunch I realized there was a slight pain in my left hand’s middle finger. I could not fold it properly. I didn’t pay any attention though, and took rescue remedy as well as chanting Rescue Remedy.
By evening the middle finger swelled a lot. I was totally unable to move my left hand due to heavy pain. The pain was so much, that I couldn’t control my tears. After I reached home around 8.00 pm, I ended up ringing Shobana and explained to her the situation and that I couldn’t move my left hand even a bit.
She asked me to put my finger in a drinking water, where few pills of rescue remedy is added (for 15 minutes). She also gave me some names of Bach Flowers to chant. I agreed to do it, and by the time I was mixing the pills in water, I received a call from Shobana and what she told me then is still unbelievable to me.
What had happened on the other end is that Shobana had called up Balakumar to discuss my problem. She was stunned after hearing what he had asked her. A single question whether I was overlooked on any issue – overlooked or neglected. Something that needs to come to me has not come to me, but it had gone to others.
Shobana replied ‘yes’, since I had discussed with her three days ago on my onsite opportunity. She was surprised since this incident was not discussed with Balakumar. Moreover, he mentioned that this is the reason for my suffering. He explained that my body wants me to “let go” of the fuming inside me.
And through Shobana, Balakumar advised me to continue dipping my fingers in Rescue Remedy and chant ‘Gentian, Pine and Rescue remedy’ thorough out the night.
When she rang up to me and explained her discussion with Balakumar, I was speechless with shock, since how beautifully our mind-body relationship is established.
What has happened then is a Miracle!!! After 30 minutes of dipping the finger in Rescue Remedy water, my pain got reduced a little bit. I went to sleep by chanting the Bach Flower remedies as advised. Next day morning, when I got up I was heavily relieved from the pain, though the swelling was persisting. I could go to my office, which I never thought possible earlier night with the level of pain I had.
I called up Shobana that morning and told her the pain has reduced, though the swelling is still there. In about 2 hours of time, after discussing with Balakumar, she called me and advised me to chant ‘I accept the Divine Will, and wait for the Divine Order’ as many times as I can. Believe it or not the pain went off completely in two days, and the swelling in about 4 days.
It is a miracle to us, as the pain and swelling in my fingers got disappeared without taking any antibiotics and pain relievers.
We (my family) thank Balakumar and Shobana abundantly from the bottom of our hearts, for helping us in many different ways in our lives.
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