My husband is 61 yrs old. We live and work at Muscat at this time. He has been diagnosed diabetic in 1986 (when he was 35 yrs).
He has been just increasing the dosage of his allopathic medicines to control his diabetes. It no longer works and doctor has asked him to go for injections, which he refuses to.
He has been having severe pain in the left knee since mid-April.
The allopath doctor gave an injection in the bone and said it is beginning of paralysis. He also said not to massage with any oils or balms. Only to keep ice packs.
He cannot lie down horizontal and sleep or turn sides. The pain is bearable if he is moving about, but unbearable when he comes home and relaxes. I cannot bear to see him suffering so much. Please suggest a mantra for healing this problem urgently.
We cannot leave this job and go away to India (Mumbai). We have a daughter who will be getting married in Dec 2013. Until then, we have to be here and working.
Left knee indicates that he has done something unfair to his mother.
Let him analyze his relationship, his thoughts and opinions about her.
Ask him to do the forgiving exercise daily 200 times.
Download a picture Kausalya (Sri Rama’s mother) and keep it under his pillow.
Ask him to thank all the places, where he stayed and lived in his sixty years of life.
Chant “OAK, CHERRY PLUM, WALNUT” 100 times over a cup of water and give him that water daily.
You chant “CHICORY, RED CHESTNUT, CHERRY PLUM”.
There need not be any concern for diabetes.
One 75 years old lady came to see me. She had a right knee problem.
Never can I thank my father
I asked her, “How is the relationship with your father?”
She said, “Fine. We had a very cordial relationship”
“There is no thanks in your heart for him. Can you thank him? Think about all that he had done to you. Thank him for the same”.
She became silent and curtly went off. After about one week, she phoned up to me. “As I came with my son-in-law last time, I could not tell you anything in front of him. To tell the truth, I am not able to thank my father”.
A promise that resulted in suffering
“Only because of him I suffered all my life”.
Her father showed her a boy when she was to be married and told her that she had to marry him. She agreed to her father. On the date of marriage he came and asked her, “Give me a promise. Whatever happens in your life you would not divorce this boy”. She gave a promise to her father that she would not divorce him at any cost.
Her marriage was an abusive affair
From the date of marriage, her husband had been physically abusing her. It was a total harassment. She got two children through him and they are well placed now. Because she gave a promise to her father, she did not divorce her husband. All along she had been cursing her father for the same reasons.
She said, “I am a free bird now after my husband’s death. I can neither forgive my husband nor my father”.
Positives in the sufferings
I asked her, “In spite of all these bad events there must be at least one positive event in your life. Only for that purpose you have suffered in your life”.
She is a staunch devotee of Puttaparthi Sai Baba. When her marriage failed, she wanted a spiritual asylum. Therefore, she went to Baba. She composed and sang many songs on gods like Devi, and about Baba. She was also allotted a house there in Puttaparthi.
She had a great spiritual progress. Throughout the day, she was singing only Bhajans. Her life was totally changed to spirituality and she lived a life of an ascetic.
I asked her, “Is this not a positive point? I think only for this aspect your husband behaved like that. If the suffering was not there then you would have lived an ordinary life. We say, Atmavan Bhava, which means ‘I am not the doer’. Like that your husband is also not the doer. When we say we are not the doers, the opposite person is also not the doer”.
When she understood that Divine is the doer, automatically she started forgiving and she is free from her knee pain now.
Vidya is married for 25 yrs. Now she has a herniated disk and back pain as well.
On their first night, Vidya told her husband that she is not interested in physical intimacy. However, they can get intimate only to give birth to a child. Later on, they have to abstain from it.
The husband would have wished if she had told him earlier, he would not have married her at all.
However, God has a reason behind every action. It is God’s Will.
She Imposed Her Will on Her Husband
They had a son and their physical relationship ended as she decided.
She had imposed her will on her husband! In addition, she was separated from him emotionally.
Now after 25 years, around the age of 55, she has the pain.
For the past five years, she has consulted many doctors, but to no relief from the pain. She had undergone different kinds of treatments and had gone through various types of scans too.
Let Us Analyze Her Case
Hernia means separation.
Back disks are separated as she has separated (alienated) herself from her husband.
Body is telling her now that what she had done twenty-five years ago back is not correct.
It would have warned her even at that young age in the form of pain. She would have taken then some painkillers. As she was young, she would have overcome the pain comfortably.
Unfortunately, at this age, she cannot rectify the mistake.
Therefore, I asked her to do the forgiving exercise.
The Forgiving Exercise given:
- She was to write her husband’s name and her name on a piece of paper, and kept it on her left palm.
- Then close it with her right palm and affirmed, “I am sorry. Please forgive me. Love, Thanks, and Divine!”
- Then she had to visualise sending them both to God’s source, to be healed by its light and love.
- Then she was to bring them back from God’s source and affirm, “Love! Thanks! Divine!”
- In addition, she had to do the affirmation, “Let this not happen in my next life. Let me then unite with my husband mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually”.
Her Progress Was Miraculous
When I suggested the above, I did not have much hope. However, after one month, she was almost all right.
She learnt yoga. Initially she had difficulties. However, after a few days of Yoga and Pranayama, she gradually gained some improvement.
Now her movements are not restricted. Her pain is bearable as well. She is able to walk joyfully. However, she feels a little bit of pain now and then.
Once you realize your mistake and ready to rectify it, then the body adjusts and rectifies the pain with the thinking let this person be pardoned 🙂
Please note the above material is from the monthly meeting held on Jan and Feb 2009 on Mind and Body Intelligence.
Fraudulent Practices in the Office
Raj was an assistant accountant in a company.
His boss was cheating the company by getting commission from the vendors.
Raju was party to it. He was getting some cut from those deals. Though, his conscience pricked, he did not mind taking the money.
Eventually, he developed pain in the right fingers.
I asked him that he is doing something wrong in the office. I told him to resign the job, as the body is warning him that he might land up in trouble soon.
He resigned from the company immediately.
Venu did not save until the age of fifty. Whatever he earns he will spent it without twice thinking about his future plans.
He got pain Right hand fingers and after few months it became numb.
The body is informing him, ‘don’t spend everything and start saving for the future!
Please note the above material is from the monthly meeting held on Jan and Feb 2009 on Mind and Body Intelligence:
This case history is a narration by Nirmal, who works as a software engineer. She narrates how mind-body relationship helped her to heal the swelling that appeared on her left hand without any medication.
This has happened to me last month (Jan 09). I am working in a software company, and was waiting for my US opportunity in my project. One fine morning, we received a mail stating that someone from Chennai had been shortlisted for the US assignment on a long-term basis. I got disappointed as I was not referred for that position. I wrote a mail to my manager, asking for the reason, for the job exactly fits my profile.
This was running inside mind, when I went to my native place for the festival season. Suddenly I received a call from Shobana, my yoga teacher. She informed that there is a monthly meeting organized next week, and wanted to know whether we – my self and my hubby, are available.
I broke down and explained to her all that happened and as usual she consoled me with her magnetic voice and positive words. She told me that some other thing might be waiting for me here in India to complete, which might bring more visibility than the US role.
Also, she was advising me to accept the fact and release the thought rather than fuming inside my heart. She asked me to chant the Switch Words – ‘Love Thanks Divine’ as many times as possible to come out of the hurt.
Three days later, I went to my office. Still the incident was running in my mind. It was not so much fuming inside me, as I had on the first day. And later on during the day, I received an explanation that there was a mistake in the email and the role was not yet finalized in US.
Meanwhile, right after the lunch I realized there was a slight pain in my left hand’s middle finger. I could not fold it properly. I didn’t pay any attention though, and took rescue remedy as well as chanting Rescue Remedy.
By evening the middle finger swelled a lot. I was totally unable to move my left hand due to heavy pain. The pain was so much, that I couldn’t control my tears. After I reached home around 8.00 pm, I ended up ringing Shobana and explained to her the situation and that I couldn’t move my left hand even a bit.
She asked me to put my finger in a drinking water, where few pills of rescue remedy is added (for 15 minutes). She also gave me some names of Bach Flowers to chant. I agreed to do it, and by the time I was mixing the pills in water, I received a call from Shobana and what she told me then is still unbelievable to me.
What had happened on the other end is that Shobana had called up Balakumar to discuss my problem. She was stunned after hearing what he had asked her. A single question whether I was overlooked on any issue – overlooked or neglected. Something that needs to come to me has not come to me, but it had gone to others.
Shobana replied ‘yes’, since I had discussed with her three days ago on my onsite opportunity. She was surprised since this incident was not discussed with Balakumar. Moreover, he mentioned that this is the reason for my suffering. He explained that my body wants me to “let go” of the fuming inside me.
And through Shobana, Balakumar advised me to continue dipping my fingers in Rescue Remedy and chant ‘Gentian, Pine and Rescue remedy’ thorough out the night.
When she rang up to me and explained her discussion with Balakumar, I was speechless with shock, since how beautifully our mind-body relationship is established.
What has happened then is a Miracle!!! After 30 minutes of dipping the finger in Rescue Remedy water, my pain got reduced a little bit. I went to sleep by chanting the Bach Flower remedies as advised. Next day morning, when I got up I was heavily relieved from the pain, though the swelling was persisting. I could go to my office, which I never thought possible earlier night with the level of pain I had.
I called up Shobana that morning and told her the pain has reduced, though the swelling is still there. In about 2 hours of time, after discussing with Balakumar, she called me and advised me to chant ‘I accept the Divine Will, and wait for the Divine Order’ as many times as I can. Believe it or not the pain went off completely in two days, and the swelling in about 4 days.
It is a miracle to us, as the pain and swelling in my fingers got disappeared without taking any antibiotics and pain relievers.
We (my family) thank Balakumar and Shobana abundantly from the bottom of our hearts, for helping us in many different ways in our lives.